As a father, you’re priority in fulfilling the plan of God in your life is your family. The rest will follow suit. Your so called “calling,” or “ministry,” or “church activity” is not a priority. Didn’t you know that if you drop dead in the middle of your sermon, God will send someone to finish your preaching? Hello? Can you hear me now?
However, God cannot replace your spot as a father. No one can take place the role of a father and leader in your household. Also, no one can take place the role of a husband to your wife. As long as you live, you are one with your wife. Also, God expects you to drop everything you do and take care of your household immediately in the event they need your presence in their midst.
You are important in God’s eyes as you work in His ministry all right; but you are not that important as you think you are. Who do you think you are anyway? Do you really believe that God’s work will not move forward without you? Yeah right. Give yourself a break. Why don’t you spend more time to your lovely wife and sweet children of yours before it’s too late? Didn’t you know that there are more revelations from the Holy Spirit that pop up during your time with your family? Why don’t you do it and you’ll see that it’s true? By the way your God is a father too, just like you are, and He knows better than what you think.
Don’t worry about your ministry – It’s not your ministry anyway, but God’s. The truth is there is a long line of God’s men who are qualified for your spot; and that qualification is from God. According to Apostle Paul, God qualified him to the ministry. Paul did not qualify himself. It was the work of God. Some have mistakenly believed that man has to qualify himself to do the work of God; however, that is not true. Only God can qualify someone to work in His vineyard. God has called, placed, and assigned believers to various parts of the Body of Christ according to His grace, and not according to their experiences, educations, and abilities.
God is able to use anything according to His power and might to accomplish His plans and purposes without you. God used a burning bush to speak to Moses. At one time Jesus rebuked the people around Him regarding praise and worship. He told them that if they would not give Him praise, then the stones and the rocks will begin to shout praises for God’s glory. Also in the Old Testament, God used a donkey to correct a prophet’s error. A donkey began to talk and rebuked a prophet! It would not be surprising if one of these days believers would bring their donkeys in church services.
Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob will reveal so much wisdom and knowledge regarding walking with God, and being a father. These three men of faith know family values more than anyone else in the planet earth. They have a legacy of obedience to God, and their children became mighty and powerful. These men proudly confess Proverbs 13:22, “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children’s children.”
Being a father is a primary calling from God. Abraham knew about this calling by heart:
“For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just, so that the Lord may bring about for Abraham what He has promised to him.” (Genesis 18:19 NIV)
The scripture above declares that God had told Abraham that He would bring to pass all that He has promised if Abraham will bring up his children into the obedience of God, and to do what is right and just. Therefore, in order for God to fulfill His promises to Abraham, Abraham has to train, discipline, nurture, and guide his children and household after his faith. Abraham knew that in order for God to fulfill His promises, he has to take care of his family first.
At the latter part of Abraham’s life, God has blessed him in all things (Genesis 24:1). Abraham’s servant testified, “The Lord has blessed my master greatly and he has become great; and He has given him flocks and herds, silver and gold, male and female servants, and camels and donkeys.” (Genesis 24:35)
At the end of his days Abraham had fulfilled his calling to be a good father. God had been faithful to Abraham. Abraham left his legacy to his family and especially to his son Isaac. God blessed Abraham. Genesis 25:5, “And Abraham gave all that he had to Isaac.”
The second generation Isaac was a good father also. The Bible declares that Isaac did the same thing as his father. Isaac followed his father’s footsteps in bringing up his children and family according to his faith. Evidently God blessed Isaac with so much blessings.
Genesis 26: 12-14, “Then Isaac sowed in that land and reaped in the same year a hundredfold; and the Lord blessed him. The man began to prosper, and continued prospering until he became prosperous; for he had possessions of flocks and possessions of herds and a great number of servants. So the Philistines envied him.” Even Isaac’s neighbors speak of his blessing. In Genesis 26:29, “You are now the blessed of the Lord.”
The third generation Jacob followed the word of God. Jacob was also blessed by God. In Genesis 30:43, “Thus the man became exceedingly prosperous, and had large flocks, female and male servants, and camels and donkeys.”
Jacob was so blessed by God and God had to confirm His promises He made to his father and grandfather. In Genesis 35:1-12, “Also God said to him: “I am God Almighty. Be fruitful and multiply; a nation and a company of nations shall proceed from you, and kings shall come from your body. The land which I gave Abraham and Isaac I give to you; and to your descendants after I give this land.”
In the New Testament, the Apostle Paul gives us two verses that deal with being a father.
“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4 NLT)
“Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.” (Colossians 3:21 NLT)
First, don’t let your children get mad at you because of the way you treated them. In short, don’t let them hate you. Treat them right. The issue here is not who is right, but what is right. You won’t get wrong when you have the word of truth in your disposal.
Second, you bring them with discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. “Comes from the Lord” is a loaded statement. The statement means according to the principles and ways of God. It is all according to the word of God, and not according to the word of man.
Where in a world can you find a place that gives discipline and teachings that comes from the Lord? No private or public school in planet offers this kind of discipline and instruction for your children. Not even a church can offer this kind of discipline and instruction either. Paul said, “YOU.” You bring them. Therefore, it is your responsibility as a father to bring discipline and instruction to your children. And that is through the word of God and of the power of the Holy Spirit.
Be advised, take heed to Paul’s warning: “… If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, … He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s children? (1 Timothy 3:1-7 NIV).
Psalm 112:1-3, “Praise the Lord! Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who delights greatly in His commandments. His descendants will be mighty on earth; the generation of the upright will be blessed. Wealth and riches will be in his house, and his righteousness endures forever.”
Happy Father’s Day you all!!